In Which I Tell My Wife About My Weight Loss Blog

July 22, 2008 · 15 comments


Do you remember back in January when we were talking about the weight I had lost and you asked me what was making the biggest difference in my success? What I told you was, to put it simply, eating less and exercising more.

But there was something I didn’t tell you.

Since August of last year, almost a year ago now, I started this weight loss blog as a way to document my Journey from Fat to Fit. I was pretty confident that being public and open about my struggles with weight loss would help me in being successful when I have failed so many times before. Remember a few years ago when I went on Atkins and lost about 40 pounds? Next thing you know it was all back and more. I really wanted this time to be different.

But I was afraid it wouldn’t work. And I was afraid that if I told people I knew “in the real world” about this blog, like you, that when it didn’t work out and when I didn’t lose the weight, that I would feel like an even bigger failure.

So what I expected to happened was that it either worked, or it didn’t. If it didn’t work then I would erase the blog, and just move forward as though nothing happened and just wait for my next effort. But if it worked, of course I would tell you so that we could celebrate my success together.

That night after we talked about what I was doing to be successful, I started writing this post. At the time I told myself that 259 would be a great milestone that would signal to me that my weight loss efforts were paying off, and that this blog, and being open and honest about everything, was a significant factor in why I was able to be successful. So, my plan was to hit 259 (just a few pounds more) and then celebrate by confirming this blog was going to be a permanent part of my life and than include you in that.

But then a funny thing happened, as it is happened before when I had weight loss success. It started to go the wrong way. I stopped eating less and I stopped exercising more, and in fact I stopped, or at least significantly decreased, my posting here.

But no more. I’m back on the plan and even though I haven’t hit that 259 milestone I had hoped to hit before I acknowledged this blog was working, I am now ready to tell you about it. I was prepared to do this back in March when I wrote a post called 9 Tips for Kick-Starting you Dormant Weight Loss Blog where I offered this tip:

Tell someone about your blog. Still blogging anonymously? Tell someone in the “real world” about your blog and your weight loss journey, and ask that they support you. It’s too easy to disappear off the face of the blogging planet if you nobody in your life knows about your weight loss blog.

But then days turned into weeks and into months, and here it is July and I am still nowhere near my low weight and I am only just getting around to telling you about this part of my life.

I’m sorry to have kept this from you, and I hope you will forgive me.

Let’s go on more walks.

Love, John

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Steve v4.7 July 22, 2008 at 7:55 pm

Blessed Accountability

Annette July 22, 2008 at 11:08 pm

I like it and I can completely understand why you kept it to yourself. My hubby knows about it but hasn’t asked to see it……I don’t know why…..maybe one day he will.

Matt P July 22, 2008 at 11:24 pm


Keep it up man you will hit your number. Stay positive and stay focused and it can only get easier. I too have my own challenge going on to lose 30 lbs. and I just started a blog and so far it has helped keep me accountable.

Metroknow July 23, 2008 at 12:27 am

Nice work John, and a great idea to post a letter like this!

MizFit July 23, 2008 at 7:52 am

(realizes she just has, in general, a big mouth)

Groovybabe July 23, 2008 at 10:04 am

A while back I told someone irl about it. It was a friend who has herself just reached goal with ww so she knew where I was coming from. I tend to forget she can read it as she doesnt comment on the site but every now and again she mentions some post to me I have made and that gives me the kick up the bum I need. Its much more humiliating to fall of the wagon to people irl than online anon, I find.

Andrew is getting fit July 23, 2008 at 1:21 pm

Heh…it’s quite funny but someone at work found my site now I have a dedicated following.

It means I have to eat clean at work. I always feel people are watching. :p

Tell your wife we’re a nice bunch. ;)

Allan July 23, 2008 at 1:39 pm

Great idea, great plan and something I have followed. I told a co-worker for accountability locally, and the rest of the lurkers can cajole me on….
Keep going, we are watching

rachel b. July 23, 2008 at 4:13 pm

I can’t wait to hear her take/reaction. Maybe she could be a guest post! I always think it is nice when the spouses share this part of our lives.

Mary July 24, 2008 at 10:09 am

Aww, good. I am glad your wife will know and can be even more supportive of your efforts. I have been thinking about telling people about my blog and weight loss attempts. I think no one knowing in my life is actually detrimental… accountability is such a good thing.

Carol Bardelli July 24, 2008 at 11:51 am

I agree totally blogging helps us be more accountable.

I couldn’t keep a blog from my husband that long. My mouth is too big!

Tony July 28, 2008 at 4:06 pm

I say tell everyone you know. You may feel embarrassed at first but you will be amazed at how understanding and encouraging your friends and family will be.

Broadcasting my struggle to everyone I knew was the biggest key to having success.

It was scary as all get out…at first. But I quickly realized that no one was going to ridicule me. My friends and family just wanted to help.

So spread the word!

Strong One July 29, 2008 at 5:32 pm

No journey is easy when taken alone.
Keep on keepin on.

GeorgieGirl July 29, 2008 at 5:37 pm

That’s the way to step it up a notch! Good for you! I know when I first told my family about my blog it was incredibly embarrassing when I knew they were reading my posts. Long term though, it’s been a great thing! Family and friends can be very encouraging.

Garry Conn December 29, 2008 at 4:30 am

What an awesome post John! What was Amy’s reaction after she read it? How are things going for you now (six months later)?

Thanks Gary! Well, she knows I blog so it wasn’t much of a surprise I think. Overall I’m still having a hard time getting my groove back on when it comes to losing weight. Like others I’m looking to January 1st for inspiration!

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