Comments on: Still Looking For That First Compliment http://www.johnisfit.com/2007/12/07/still-looking-for-that-first-compliment/ My Weight Loss Blog Mon, 30 Jan 2012 07:15:58 +0000 hourly 1 By: Debo Hobo http://www.johnisfit.com/2007/12/07/still-looking-for-that-first-compliment/#comment-890 Debo Hobo Mon, 10 Dec 2007 20:39:02 +0000 http://www.johnisfit.com/2007/12/07/still-looking-for-that-first-compliment/#comment-890 Ah yes, the compliments--I had lost a bit of weight doing Jazzercise 4xs a week then came all those wonderful compliments. I got way to comfortable and the occational treat because I'll work it off became a daily treat and then there seemed to be no time for working out. I got caught up in the compliments. So I too will be awaiting the compliments that will come and this time I know not to take them and sit with them I know now to take them and run with them and strive to get more. Ah yes, the compliments–I had lost a bit of weight doing Jazzercise 4xs a week then came all those wonderful compliments. I got way to comfortable and the occational treat because I'll work it off became a daily treat and then there seemed to be no time for working out. I got caught up in the compliments. So I too will be awaiting the compliments that will come and this time I know not to take them and sit with them I know now to take them and run with them and strive to get more.

]]> By: john - from fat to fit http://www.johnisfit.com/2007/12/07/still-looking-for-that-first-compliment/#comment-877 john - from fat to fit Sun, 09 Dec 2007 10:50:32 +0000 http://www.johnisfit.com/2007/12/07/still-looking-for-that-first-compliment/#comment-877 Wow, thanks for all the comments guys. I think this post may have generated the most comments ever for me. I think it is because this IS a touchy subject, and it sounds like others (liek Steve) have had some interesting experiences. I can't imagine losing 87 pounds and not having a family member say something affimrative. And it sounds like there is a danger of it coming the other direction too - once people get over you losing weight they'll start seeing you as thin and sickly I suppose. I can see my mom having concerns about that. Well, we'll just have to deal with that when it comes! Wow, thanks for all the comments guys. I think this post may have generated the most comments ever for me. I think it is because this IS a touchy subject, and it sounds like others (liek Steve) have had some interesting experiences. I can't imagine losing 87 pounds and not having a family member say something affimrative. And it sounds like there is a danger of it coming the other direction too – once people get over you losing weight they'll start seeing you as thin and sickly I suppose. I can see my mom having concerns about that. Well, we'll just have to deal with that when it comes!

]]> By: Fat Man http://www.johnisfit.com/2007/12/07/still-looking-for-that-first-compliment/#comment-875 Fat Man Sun, 09 Dec 2007 09:56:25 +0000 http://www.johnisfit.com/2007/12/07/still-looking-for-that-first-compliment/#comment-875 I haven't had a compliment in weeks, we are in the same boat. It's not like I need the compliments, but they do assist with motivating. I haven't had a compliment in weeks, we are in the same boat. It's not like I need the compliments, but they do assist with motivating.

]]> By: TB-Milwaukee http://www.johnisfit.com/2007/12/07/still-looking-for-that-first-compliment/#comment-874 TB-Milwaukee Sun, 09 Dec 2007 05:51:37 +0000 http://www.johnisfit.com/2007/12/07/still-looking-for-that-first-compliment/#comment-874 Took me almost till 50 pounds before anyone at work started commenting. Now, I get tons of people everyday saying that I look great and I should stop because I look good the way I am. It will come, sometimes they're embarrassed to say anything in fear that you may be sick or something, plus weight can be a touchy subject for many people. Took me almost till 50 pounds before anyone at work started commenting. Now, I get tons of people everyday saying that I look great and I should stop because I look good the way I am.

It will come, sometimes they're embarrassed to say anything in fear that you may be sick or something, plus weight can be a touchy subject for many people.

]]> By: Skinny Guy http://www.johnisfit.com/2007/12/07/still-looking-for-that-first-compliment/#comment-873 Skinny Guy Sat, 08 Dec 2007 20:47:43 +0000 http://www.johnisfit.com/2007/12/07/still-looking-for-that-first-compliment/#comment-873 The compliments will come in time, John. While it's always nice to get them, for me the most powerful motivation I got while losing were about my body. How much better it felt, how clothes looked and felt better on it, the reduction in the medicines I was taking. Those things were under my direct control as a result of losing the weight. I couldn't rely on outside sources for motivation, they were too undependable. Don't get me wrong, when they came along I accepted them and used them, I just didn't rely on them on a day-in, day-out basis. The compliments will come in time, John. While it's always nice to get them, for me the most powerful motivation I got while losing were about my body. How much better it felt, how clothes looked and felt better on it, the reduction in the medicines I was taking. Those things were under my direct control as a result of losing the weight. I couldn't rely on outside sources for motivation, they were too undependable. Don't get me wrong, when they came along I accepted them and used them, I just didn't rely on them on a day-in, day-out basis.

]]> By: Steve v4.6 http://www.johnisfit.com/2007/12/07/still-looking-for-that-first-compliment/#comment-872 Steve v4.6 Sat, 08 Dec 2007 20:27:07 +0000 http://www.johnisfit.com/2007/12/07/still-looking-for-that-first-compliment/#comment-872 First off, great job working towards your transformation! Compliments or no, you've decided and are moving towards a healthier you. Secondly, Use EVERYTHING as motivation- especially the LACK of compliments. If an atta-boy gets you going, great- but my personal experience has been that the giving of compliments is dependent upon the personality of the giver rather than anything I had done. Not everyone is all that gracious or supportive. For example, I hadn't seen my in-laws in 87 pounds and nothing was said regarding any difference in my weight. My sister won't say anything to me about it either; she mentions it to my wife- but never me. I say keep going, John, you're looking great! First off, great job working towards your transformation! Compliments or no, you've decided and are moving towards a healthier you.

Secondly, Use EVERYTHING as motivation- especially the LACK of compliments. If an atta-boy gets you going, great- but my personal experience has been that the giving of compliments is dependent upon the personality of the giver rather than anything I had done. Not everyone is all that gracious or supportive. For example, I hadn't seen my in-laws in 87 pounds and nothing was said regarding any difference in my weight. My sister won't say anything to me about it either; she mentions it to my wife- but never me.

I say keep going, John, you're looking great!

]]> By: Sonya http://www.johnisfit.com/2007/12/07/still-looking-for-that-first-compliment/#comment-871 Sonya Sat, 08 Dec 2007 16:52:34 +0000 http://www.johnisfit.com/2007/12/07/still-looking-for-that-first-compliment/#comment-871 I completely understand what you mean. The first few compliments I received I just thought they were saying it 'to be nice'. I thought they were saying it because a) they knew I was trying to lose weight and b) because isn't that what you're suppose to say when someone is trying to lose weight? It wasn't until I went to the dentist recently (and hadn't been there in 9 months) that the hygienist was in shock because I had lost weight. She said at first glance she didn't recognize me. This was odd to me considering I've only lost 29lbs, but I take this compliment as unbias because she never knew I was 'trying' to lose in the first place. She was the one that said 'wow, you look great, what have you been doing?" You'll get your first unbias comment, don't you worry. It will come. I completely understand what you mean. The first few compliments I received I just thought they were saying it 'to be nice'. I thought they were saying it because a) they knew I was trying to lose weight and b) because isn't that what you're suppose to say when someone is trying to lose weight?

It wasn't until I went to the dentist recently (and hadn't been there in 9 months) that the hygienist was in shock because I had lost weight. She said at first glance she didn't recognize me. This was odd to me considering I've only lost 29lbs, but I take this compliment as unbias because she never knew I was 'trying' to lose in the first place. She was the one that said 'wow, you look great, what have you been doing?"

You'll get your first unbias comment, don't you worry. It will come.

]]> By: Steve http://www.johnisfit.com/2007/12/07/still-looking-for-that-first-compliment/#comment-869 Steve Sat, 08 Dec 2007 04:25:51 +0000 http://www.johnisfit.com/2007/12/07/still-looking-for-that-first-compliment/#comment-869 It's hard to get a really unbiased compliment simply because you have let it be known that you are trying to lose weight. Try avoiding some not so close acquaintances for a month or so then go out of your way and talk to them again. See if they notice the change. Lol. By the way you can really notice the weight loss in your progress pics. Especially the side views. I had a run in with a women in the summer that I went to high school with. I hadn't seen her in 13 years. She said I looked great and hadn't changed a bit since high school. She didn't know that I was 40lbs heavier for the past 10 years. Does that count as an unbiased compliment? :) It's hard to get a really unbiased compliment simply because you have let it be known that you are trying to lose weight.

Try avoiding some not so close acquaintances for a month or so then go out of your way and talk to them again. See if they notice the change. Lol.

By the way you can really notice the weight loss in your progress pics. Especially the side views.

I had a run in with a women in the summer that I went to high school with. I hadn't seen her in 13 years. She said I looked great and hadn't changed a bit since high school. She didn't know that I was 40lbs heavier for the past 10 years. Does that count as an unbiased compliment? :)

]]> By: Michelle http://www.johnisfit.com/2007/12/07/still-looking-for-that-first-compliment/#comment-866 Michelle Sat, 08 Dec 2007 02:58:55 +0000 http://www.johnisfit.com/2007/12/07/still-looking-for-that-first-compliment/#comment-866 I know the feeling too well. I've blogged about having issues on receiving compliments. They will definitely come for you. I, myself, have a hard time complimenting somebody if I think they're losing weight because weight is one of those tricky topics. If somebody IS losing weight, it makes them feel great that you've noticed. If somebody is NOT trying to and in fact they've gained a couple, they might feel self conscious. It will come. Keep up the good work! I know the feeling too well. I've blogged about having issues on receiving compliments. They will definitely come for you.

I, myself, have a hard time complimenting somebody if I think they're losing weight because weight is one of those tricky topics. If somebody IS losing weight, it makes them feel great that you've noticed. If somebody is NOT trying to and in fact they've gained a couple, they might feel self conscious.

It will come. Keep up the good work!

]]> By: john - from fat to fit http://www.johnisfit.com/2007/12/07/still-looking-for-that-first-compliment/#comment-865 john - from fat to fit Sat, 08 Dec 2007 01:21:44 +0000 http://www.johnisfit.com/2007/12/07/still-looking-for-that-first-compliment/#comment-865 Thanks all. I do update my <a href="http://www.johnisfit.com/pictures/">picture page</a> monthly. Thanks all. I do update my picture page monthly.

]]> By: Lady Rose http://www.johnisfit.com/2007/12/07/still-looking-for-that-first-compliment/#comment-863 Lady Rose Sat, 08 Dec 2007 00:05:23 +0000 http://www.johnisfit.com/2007/12/07/still-looking-for-that-first-compliment/#comment-863 You are doing great! Don't forget to give yourself compliments too. And new photos here would be good too. You are doing great! Don't forget to give yourself compliments too. And new photos here would be good too.

]]> By: violet http://www.johnisfit.com/2007/12/07/still-looking-for-that-first-compliment/#comment-862 violet Fri, 07 Dec 2007 20:28:52 +0000 http://www.johnisfit.com/2007/12/07/still-looking-for-that-first-compliment/#comment-862 I know what you mean about waiting for the compliments to come! I've lost 10 pounds since the summer, which on my 5'2 frame is quite a bit, and my neighbor popped over and said, "Violet, you look great!" It made me feel so good! I agree with Vilma that the new wave of compliments will come for you. In the meantime, please keep writing on the blog, it is great inspiration for me! I know what you mean about waiting for the compliments to come! I've lost 10 pounds since the summer, which on my 5'2 frame is quite a bit, and my neighbor popped over and said, "Violet, you look great!" It made me feel so good! I agree with Vilma that the new wave of compliments will come for you. In the meantime, please keep writing on the blog, it is great inspiration for me!

]]> By: Vilma http://www.johnisfit.com/2007/12/07/still-looking-for-that-first-compliment/#comment-861 Vilma Fri, 07 Dec 2007 18:38:07 +0000 http://www.johnisfit.com/2007/12/07/still-looking-for-that-first-compliment/#comment-861 I know what you mean. I agree with the post John previously posted. Post some pictures up so your online buddies can also see and evalute your progress. I think compliments are hard for me to accept. About 5 years ago, I lost 50+ lbs and everyone was telling me how skinny & fit I was but then all of a sudden they started turning on me and telling me I was too skinny & the I needed to gain a couple of lbs. I guess I let that get to me and here I am again 5 years later trying to lose 60+ instead of just 50. :( Keep your head up & keep going strong. Those compliments will come! ~ Vilma I know what you mean. I agree with the post John previously posted. Post some pictures up so your online buddies can also see and evalute your progress.

I think compliments are hard for me to accept. About 5 years ago, I lost 50+ lbs and everyone was telling me how skinny & fit I was but then all of a sudden they started turning on me and telling me I was too skinny & the I needed to gain a couple of lbs. I guess I let that get to me and here I am again 5 years later trying to lose 60+ instead of just 50. :(

Keep your head up & keep going strong. Those compliments will come!

~ Vilma

]]> By: John http://www.johnisfit.com/2007/12/07/still-looking-for-that-first-compliment/#comment-860 John Fri, 07 Dec 2007 17:14:21 +0000 http://www.johnisfit.com/2007/12/07/still-looking-for-that-first-compliment/#comment-860 You need to post some before and update photos John. That way us internet folks can give you meaningful comments. It is embarrassing I know, but it will help you commit even more so to losing that weight. You need to post some before and update photos John. That way us internet folks can give you meaningful comments.

It is embarrassing I know, but it will help you commit even more so to losing that weight.

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